Driving home for Christmas and my 28 weeks bump update

I am writing this sitting at my parents house, back against the mantle of the fireplace, my laptop on the table that used to hold my latin books and my tea pot. My daughter is laughing while she plays with her grandparents in the next room and my sisters are about to arrive any time.

I must have spend countless hours here...
I must have spend countless hours here…

Christmas has always been the time of year where we all meet back here, joined by aunts, uncles, cousins and family friends on the 25th or 26th. And while it has been that way ever since I moved out at the age of 19, family has become even more important to me once I had my daughter.

But even if I could ramble on and on about family and get all emotional (it is almost Christmas after all), this is not going to be a soppy post.

I have some big news to share with you guys, and they needed that little introduction.

About two months ago, we finally made the plunge and bought a house.

But not just any house.

We bought my parents house, or at least a part of it.

Now let me explain: We have always been a big family. Four children, a cat, a dog. So we had a big house. A pretty, but also very old big house. And one after the other, we moved out. The dog died. The cat died.

So it was a big old house where only my parents lived. My parents lead a very active life, they like to travel the world, go out a lot, but taking care of a big old house takes up time. And to be honest, if it wasn´t for Christmas with all of us returning home, the house was a little empty.

Fast forward a few years to February 2015. my daughter was born. She came earlier than expected, my husband couldn’t take days off at work and I was anxious to be home alone with a newborn at first. So my mother drove up and stayed with me for the first week, taking care of me and sleeping on our couch (we live in a flat, no guest room).

From that day, I found myself spending a lot of time at my parents, and when Little Bean grew older and I went back to work, my parents were a huge help in balancing my husbands and my crazy working schedule that included night shifts and weekends. Only problem: It is a 1.5 hours drive one way between our homes.

On top of all that, me, who never thought she´d be able to settle down in one place, began craving a home. Not a rented flat, all fancy and modern, but a home. A place filled with memories, a place with history, a place like the one I grew up in. I craved that for me and for my children.

Okay, things are getting soppy, so I will stop rambling here.

I am 36 years old. I am a mother. I am moving back in with my parents.

And I am pretty excited about that!

Now before you all start to worry: The whole thing was my husbands idea! He is completely on board and will, of course, move with us. The complete Loca family is going there.

And yes, we have talked everything through, it is all planned down to the notch. We will have some shared space and some individual space for each part of the family, with privacy maintained.

I will have someone to look after the children when I have to be somewhere, some one I know will raise them the way I would.

My parents will have someone to take care of the house (and the cat, because there is a new one) when they are away.

My children will get to see their grandparents and aunties as much as possible.

And the house will be what it was before: A place for the whole family to meet, at Christmas and all year round!

 

I even tied a bow on top of the belly, because it is almost Christmas.
I even tied a bow on top of the belly, because it is almost Christmas. Can you tell I am not very good at wrapping presents?

The 28 weeks Bump Update

Back pain, pain in the symphysis (the front part of the pelvis) when walking and explosive weight gain are what have accompanied me throughout the last weeks. But all in moderation.

On a positive note, I am no longer on modified bed rest, so I am allowed to exercise again. Given that I am in my third trimester now, I just did some pregnancy yoga so far. I am about as flexible as an old tree…

Peanut is growing and kicking, all healthy and happy as far as I can tell. He hasn’t settled into „birthing position“ yet, but there is still plenty of time.

 

Thank you for sticking with me through this personal update!

Are you going to see the family for the Holidays?

And do you live for rent or in your own place?

 

Of course I am taking pictures of the whole process, so I can update you when the move is done, which won’t be until summer 2016.

 

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  • Wow, it is so beautiful that you chose your parents‘ house to live in. I think it’s an amazing thing!
    Have lovely Christmas days!
    xx Elisa
    http://www.francinesplacediy.blogspot.com
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    • I would have never thought about that a few years back, I was convinced I wouldn’t go back living in the city I grew up in…

  • That is big news! I don’t think I could ever move back in with my parents… but then again yours are away very often, so I guess that makes it easier. Plus you’re in a slightly different situation than me 😉 Exciting times!

    • It only works if there is enough space to have a separate place to yourself. And yes, the kids change your priorities a lot…

  • Look at you! Your bump is gorgeous! Congrats on moving, I actually have a similar story, about 11 years ago I purchased my childhood home from my dad. Although he doesn’t live here now, he lives at his farm about 8 hours away. It’s lovely seeing my child growing up in the same house that I have so many memories of my own childhood in xx
    thebeautybloss.com

    • That is exactly how I am feeling: I get so excited (and teary eyed) to see her run around where I used to play, playing with my old toys my parents kept in the black hole that is the basement.
      Did you change a lot after moving in?

      • It’s a lovely feeling! Yes, different kitchen (was done when I lived in a rented place) but we put in a new bathroom, floors and paint!! No structural changes as of yet.but completely different decor. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like the same house but other times it feels exactly the same lols.

        • We are redoing several parts as well, which is a necessity as my parents bought the house when I was born, and just like me the house needs a little more warpaint to look fresh these days.
          We will completely redo the attic (which is where my husband and I are going to live) and the kitchen, and do some major renovation in the basement. It is exciting!

  • I think it’s a fantastic thing that you’ve got it all planned! I’m not at an age or position where I can comment much about juggling familial duties and work, but I can tell as a daughter should be able to that this is a wonderful thing. I’m happy for you!

    My family doesn’t celebrate Christmas so I normally go over to my friends‘ place to celebrate Christmas — a second family, if you’d like to call it that.

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    • You can never have enough „family places“ to go to when it comes to Christmas. For me it is about family way more than it is about religion.

      Having had children really changed a lot for me, but in a great and positive way. I cant wait to see how everything turns out.

  • That is fantastic news! I grew up spending lots of time with my grandparents and that relationship is so special that it is great your children will have it.
    I own my place in Oxford and although it is home now, I have moved around a lot in my life and have made wherever I have been my home pretty quickly. Of course if I have children this feeling may change, but for now I feel like moving around a little bit more.
    Have a wonderful Christmas with your family!

    Inma x
    sunshineandglow.blogspot.com

    • I grew up with only one grandmother alive, and one woman living with us quickly became my second grandma, even though she was not related by blood. She played a very important role in my life, just like my actual grandma who lived about an hour away from us.
      Before I had children, I never thought I would be the one to settle down, I kept moving every two or three years and figured that was the way I wanted it to stay, but some things really do change with age, I guess.
      Enjoy your holidays back with your family in Spain too!

  • Family mode 24/7! If you are excited with your decision who cares!? I just realized our posts match a little, because I wrote on mine how I would love to live in a flat on a busy busy street!
    Surrounded by family is not yet my thing but I am so happy for you!!
    Dora http://www.BangsBang.com

    • Yes, I thought that when reading your post a few hours ago. When I grew up I wanted to live in a big city, the nightlife just within reach, something to do 24/7, and I actually lived like that for a few years, but I kind of grew tired of it.
      People change, and this is what feels great right now, so yes, I am pretty excited!

  • I don’t see anything bad or weird with this decision! My friend’s parents live in a same house as their parents as well. Your kids will see more of their grandparents that I think is amazing and you will have a place that you will 100% call and feel like home. x

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • My husband was pitied quite a lot when we announced the decision in our circle of friends. I guess „moving in with the in-laws“ sounds like a nightmare to many people.
      But we are 100% genuinely happy with the decision.

  • Christie Belle

    Sounds like you’ve made a great decision for your parents as well as you and your husband! Your bump looks adorable, hope you have a lovely christmas x

    http://christbelle.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Mary Maria

    Cool, I love your bump! So happy for you! Merry Xmas dear!
    Reindeer costume by Smiffys on my last post HERE!

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  • How exciting for you with all the changes. I think it sounds like a great idea. Gemma x
    http://www.jacquardflower.uk

  • adorable. happy holidays
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  • That’s so exciting! Plus, I love your „wrapping“ job!

    nolongergrey.com

  • I love that you topped your sweet present off with a bow! That is absolutely perfect. I am so glad you are feeling better and off of bed rest! I feel you on the flexibility thing, but at least the yoga is so good for the mind! Congrats on the house too – it will be so wonderful to call that home & that is so special to be able to share it with your daughter, and you know she will be in such good hands if you are ever away! It truly sounds like the perfext match! I am a renter right now & enjoying it while I can – I feel like now is the time in my life where I do have that flexibility before I settle down with mine. Have a wonderful holiday!!!! xx SS

    • I indulged in the flexibility for many years, always moving whenever I got bored, traveling from town to town, exploring new neighborhoods. It is great, but I feel like right now I need to give my children a base from where they can start their own exploring one day, just like I did.
      Enjoy Australia!

  • Catarina Neves

    That is such a great idea!
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  • Congrats on your new (or old haha) home! Love that you can enjoy this special time with your parents.

    xx Yasmin

    http://banglesandbungalows.com

    • Yes, my new and old home. Still feels strange to think about it as „my home“ again. I hope you have a great holiday as well.

  • Such a cute post! I was wondering what the news was going to be about but it’s something I knew about already and am really excited for you! Family is such a valuable part of our lives and seeing my bf living with his parents and his son makes me appreciate the idea of a family even more.

    Having said that, with Christmas only a few days away, I miss my family in Poland like crazy. I wish I could spend Christmas with them and see the smiles on my nieces‘ faces. You are really lucky to have your family so close by!

    Agata http://herandmakeup.com

    • Maybe I should stop letting you in on the changes in my life so early so I can still surprise you? No, I don’t think so.

      It must be really hard to be away from your family during this time. But you will get to see them come summer!

      • No, don’t do that. You still surprise me in many ways, even by how amazing your writing is and how captivating your stories are! 🙂

        • I don’t think I could help myself anyway, I am always so eager to share the latest news with you 😉

  • Nadia

    Thanks for sharing such an important and personal moment of your life, Anne! Big congrats, girlie <3
    So happy for you & your sweet family!!
    I completely understand what you meant when you talked about craving your own home. We bought ours 2 years ago. Perfect little house, everything we wanted in a home. However, due to my hubby's work we had to relocate (across the sea) so now we are renting. Both of us are ok with doing that for now as we aren't parents yet nor too attached to this area. But at the same time we are chatting about our HOME home here and there. Will see what 2016 brings 😉
    On the other hand, I wish my parents lived closer. We are 3000 miles apart. Missing them so much!
    Much love your way, hon. Loved this post a lot & very excited for you & your family!
    xox Nadia
    http://mielandmint.blogspot.co.uk/

    • I think there is nothing wrong with renting, I have done and loved it for so many years. I really liked the flexibility it offered, and all the new neighborhoods I got to explore that way. But somehow that changed when I had my daughter. Blame it on the hormones!
      Are you going home to see the family for the Holidays?

  • Wow congratulations on becoming a home owner! We bought our place years ago and I love that I own a piece of Manhattan real estate. The living situation with your parents sounds like a win-win as well both for you and them. Your house will surely be bustling during the holidays for many years to come 🙂

  • Wow, so many changes (although good ones it sounds like)! I think it’s great you’re moving back with your parents as it sounds like it’s going to work out for everyone involved. It’s always nice to have family around.

    Happy holidays!
    Sam | http://mybeautycloud.com

  • Congrats and the baby and the house! Sounds like a special holiday season 🙂

    Jamie
    http://www.treatsandtrendsblog.com

  • This is such an amazing news, Anne! I can only imagine how relieved you are to finally own your own place, it’s definitely a great feeling of accomplishment! I like that you and your family are really close, I love mine but after 3 days with them, I sometime feel like I want to hang myself. LOL!

    And look at your adorable belly! If I’m living close to you, I would ask to rub your belly every day! Haha! 😛

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

    • Is it supposed to give luck? Like rubbing a buddhas belly? It surely is as big!

      I never imagined that owning my own place would ever become important, I figured I´d just be renting for the rest of my life, but sometimes you change. The great thing about my family is that even though we are very close, everyone has a busy life of their own, so there is no one that is constantly asking for your attention and lots of personal space.

  • I’m so happy for you, you sound very excited!
    I find that the more I grow older, the more I appreciate the time I get to spend with my family. I am going to see them for the Holidays, but I also get to see them pretty often as we all live in the same area.
    http://carolinapage.eu

    • 1,5 hours drive never sounded that far away to me until I had my daughter. But as you said, the older I get the more important it becomes to me. Especially when I think about my parents not being around forever more. I really want my children to be around them as much as possible.

  • Loving the baby bump! And the dress 🙂
    Also congrats on the house! Must be so exciting. We’re renting at the moment, but after we finish uni, which is in 5 months, I think we will start looking for our first house. Or at least it’s one option.
    Emma xxx

    http://www.wellemma.com

    • In Germany you usually buy once in a lifetime and rent way longer than you do in the UK for example, I am always amazed when I read about twenty somethings buying their first house on blogs. Around here people buy when they real settle down, and rarely move again.
      It is amazing how different countries can be. And you are finishing uni in five months? Not long to go!

  • First of all, congratulations! I am really happy too hear that you finally found a place which you can call home and it is you’re grown up which is filled with so many memories. Even tho moving in with parents might sound odd to some, when you think about all the benefits it would bring and also having your own private space too is great. As we grow older, we appreciate being a family more and having the loved ones close to us.
    Peanut is growing so fast! Don’t worry, you are not the only one who’s bad at wrapping gifts 🙂
    Your tittle made me smile, that’s the song my fiance shared today as he’s driving back to Germany for Christmas 🙂

    http://www.elabellaworld.com

  • Wow, love the baby bump! This is really amazing, congratulation!
    XX | Angelamall.co.nz

  • What an awesome move for you all, congratulations! I know how helpful my mum was when my son was born, it would be great to have had her staying with us!

    Your bump is growing so well too, it’s awesome you’re able to do some more exercise now, and that you’re in the third trimester now. Not long to go 🙂

    Away From The Blue Blog

    • Not long to go, I am getting really excited. Does your mother live far away from your place?

      • Not too far, about 45 minutes away which is good 🙂

  • i really enjoyed reading this post. i think it’s a great move for you and your little family 🙂 i’m sure your parents are thrilled to have their grandchild around 24/7! hehe

    theleeday.com

    • They do lead a very active life, so they won’t be there 24/7, but of course they do love spending time with the little ones. Which grandparent doesn’t?

  • Glad that he’s kickin‘ and you can go now to your exercise routine.
    Nice to know that you will be complete for christmas.
    Merry Christmas to you.

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  • Rosanna Briguglio

    What a great idea! I hope that you feel much better now you are off bed rest!
    Have a lovely Christmas 🙂
    Rosanna x
    http://rosesrooftop.blogspot.co.uk/

  • Ivona Iwarra Josipovic

    It is a great idea to be near your family. Hope you enjoy your holidays and Merry Christmas 🙂

    Ivona from http://thesmokedetector.net
    xoxo

  • Noortje Wijckmans

    Love it! Enjoy your Christmas with the whole family! Hope you have a good one
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    Lots of love

  • Kay (shoesandglitter)

    Sounds like new, exciting things are coming for you, dear Anne! I’m so happy for you, it seems like a good decision and it will be lovely to have the entire Loca family together under one roof! 🙂 <3 I'm actually living at my parents' house atm, with my boyfriend, but they moved out just under a year ago and bought their own place – so we have the house to ourselves (and pay rent for it, of course). It's a little big for just the two of us (three bedrooms, gardens), but I spent so much time of my life there now, I can't imagine living anywhere else. x

    Kay
    http://shoesandglitter.blogspot.com

    • It is funny how attached we can become to one place. Did you change a lot when your parents moved out? In terms of decor?

      • Kay (shoesandglitter)

        Not as much as I’d like, but we upgraded a few furniture bits. 🙂 At least now we have enough room to get a puppy! (hopefully next year)

        • Oh, what are you planning to get?

          • Kay (shoesandglitter)

            Hopefully, a Welsh corgi puppy. 🙂 My boyfriend is more into bigger dogs, but I convinced him that corgis are just too cute!

          • They absolutely are!

  • Christina S

    Life sounds so exciting right now and that bump looks adorable!! Have a wonderful week!

    Christina :: Simple and Delish

  • Lauren Farrell

    Nothing like being near family!! Cute little bump!! Hope you have a wonderful holiday!

    http://www.laurenfarrellny.com/blog

    • Doesn’t feel that little when you drag it around, believe me.

  • Hey, amazing news! First of all, congrats on the decision (your husband decision) to move to your parents! That’s awesome, since you will spend more time with them and that is very important! Sorry, but I didn’t understand, are you pregnant? If yes, omg, congrats! Happy holidays!

    sunandsany.com

    • Yes, I am. We are expecting our second child (a boy) in early March. We already have a daughter that will be two in February. Do you have children?

      • Congrats! No, I don’t have yet 🙂 I really don’t feel ready for it, maybe one day.

        • Maybe, maybe not. I enjoy being a mother, but there are many great things one can do with ones life.

  • Oh, that sounds like such a great arrangement! It’s great that it can benefit so many people and be usch a positive change 🙂 I would like to see my mum’s family at Christmas this year, but it’s difficult when both my sister and I work in retail with odd hours. Hopefully we can make the (rather short) journey at some point 🙂

    Have a lovely holiday!

    Erin
    http://sexycardi.blogspot.ca

    • The great thing about working in retail in Germany is that shops are closed throughout Holidays and every Sunday, so starting by noon today until Monday, the 28th, people are off work. Of course you are not if you are a nurse, doctor, police officer etc., but the people working in retail get a little break from the crazy hours they did before Christmas.
      Fingers crossed you´ll get to see them!

  • Congrats doll. The bump looks so cute!

    Happy Holidays Beautiful!

    Kisses,

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  • Toyas Tales

    Congrats on your new (old) home and I am glad to hear you are feeling better and are off bed rest. Happy Holidays! It is a gift to be able to raise your children in the same loving environment you were raised in.
    http://www.toyastales.blogspot.com

    • It really is, and I am blessed with parents that are very relaxed and easy to get on with. Otherwise that would be impossible to do.

  • Congratulations! That’s a great idea, especially if there’s the room to house all of you-why not? I think it’s wonderful that your children will be able to grow up with their grandparents, a lot of families don’t get that!

    I hope you have a very merry Christmas !

    http://www.lindseyginge.com

    • Yes, these days it gets less and less possible, with people moving all over the country for work and other reasons. But being close to the grandparents makes raising children way easier!

  • congrats on buying part of a house 🙂

    http://allornothing-blog.blogspot.co.uk/

  • It’s not a bad idea! Plus, German parents are usually pretty cool :p

  • Congratulations! Your baby bump looks so cute =) Happy Holidays! =)

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • Congratulations you look lovely have a happy christmas and new year in 2016 🙂 x http://www.bauchlefashion.com

  • Aisha

    This post is so sweet 🙂 Christmas, love, family. All perfecr. Merry Christmas dear !!

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  • Hanna

    Lovely post! Thank you for sharing –Hanna Lei

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  • thefashionsalt

    That sounds wonderful! And so nice of your husband to agree to move there too. Your so lucky to have such a close family. My husb and I have a house, but it is so far from my family (12 hour drive) and I only see them once every year or less. It would be nice to be a bit closer. And your baby bump looks beautiful!
    ~Lili
    http://www.thefashionsalt.com

    • I didn’t miss them as much before I had children, but somehow that changed a lot in my life.
      12 hours is a long drive. Do you usually go back for Christmas or meet up somewhere?

      • thefashionsalt

        I try to go there once a year, usually Thanksgiving. Then Christmas we usually go to Palm Beach with my husb parents; from which we just returned.

  • tia_cherie

    That’s a great idea! It sounds like you’ll get the best of both worlds when you move in. Happy holidays to you also
    http://tia-cherie.blogspot.com

  • Congratulation on all the positive changes! Moving back to my parents is not something I could do, but then I’m really not a family person.

    Beaumiroir

    • I have always been a family person, most likely because there is barely any pressure with my parents. They never were the ones that expected you to call every week or visit once a month, which is why I always genuinely enjoyed going there.

  • Sounds very exciting! xx

    Beautylymin

  • Congratulations on the house and the growing bump! Happy Christmas x
    Becca

  • Despite the (seemingly) common mentality of „adults shouldn’t move back in/live with parents“ thing, I think it’s a wise choice (as long as you get along with your parents, of course!). It’s a great comfort to know you have family nearby! I hope you all have happy and wonderful times together!

    Good to know you and Peanut are doing well 🙂

    • Yes, especially being around my mother helps a lot throughout the first weeks with a newborn. She has born and raised four children after all.

  • idu

    Owww I enjoyed reading this especially tying a bow above the stomach. It is such a win win situation with the home. Ingenious of your hubby to think of that. When my babies were younger, I had live in nannies but in between nannies it was so hard to cope with no close relatives living near us. So I relate to being over at your parents a lot cos that’s what I did. I drove a long ways to go be with my brother just for the warmth of a family member and some help other than my hubby who was also exhausted. Great arrangement, I‘ sure your babies will love it as much as your parents will. Merry Christmas babe.

    http://fashionablyidu.blogspot.com/2015/12/christmas-doesnt-happen-without-me.html

    • Didn’t you have twins? Having children is tough when you want to keep working, and I can imagine having twins is a real challenge if you don’t have someone living close by. A live-in nanny would have been the other option, but we would have had to move as well, because our flat is too small for another person to live there.

  • I really love these sort of posts as I get to know a little bit more about you! Congratulations on your new place, that’s super exciting. My boyfriend and I rent right now as buying in BC is very expensive. I went and saw my family for Christmas Eve and we had a big dinner and opened gifts. It’s a Polish tradition to open gifts on Christmas Eve and I remember we opened gifts one year on Christmas day way back to try and see what it was like and we didn’t like it, just so use to the Christmas Eve tradition. Also I really like sticking with tradition 🙂 Today I’ll be spending Christmas day with Chases family.

    Merry Christmas Linda:-)

    http://www.wunderbliss.com

    • We do open our gifts on Christmas Eve as well it has been this way in Germany for as long as I can remember. Christmas Eve it is presents and close family, and the the other relatives on Christmas Day and on the 26th. Lots of food and family!

  • Ella Pinto

    I can’t believe I hadn’t seen this before and hadn’t congratulated you yet! Congratulations on everything you’ve achieved: from your house to your baby! Like I said, I love babies.

    I think these are all big steps. I have to tell you – I live with my gran and have done so since I was 4 years old (my mom passed away) and I can tell you, it’s the best having my gran around me all the time. I’m pretty sure it’s going to be easier on you and your husband and your kids will love it. And you’re right: someone you know will be taking care of your kid so you’ll be less worried as I know moms get.

    I love reading mommy things and bump updates so I hope I see more of them more often.
    And again, congratulations.

    Ella Pinto xx

    • Thank you, I am pretty excited about the new addition to the family and cant wait to meet him in March. We have been spending a week at my parents around the holidays and everything was so relaxed, I am excited when the final moving date comes around. My parents are wonderful with our daughter, and it takes so much pressure off to see she is taken care for when I am slightly handicapped with the new pregnancy.

  • That’s such wonderful news! I think your plan seems great and it would be perfect to bring up your children around the family and it would help with both your schedules – that bump looks super cute!

    Pop over to my blog!

    Sarah
    sarahinks.co.uk

    • It sure feels heavy instead of cute, but I know I am going to miss it when it is gone.

  • Hollie

    Ah your blog is so organized and cute, I love it ! and this is also a great post, congrats 🙂
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    xo